I've had experience with the opposite. "Ruining" the orgasm, allows me to go at it again very swiftly. It starts just as you describe: you get up to or past the point of no return, then simply stop stimulating. Ejaculate happens, and some sensation, and lots of happy brain chemicals, but none of the oversensitive feel of post orgasm. I've done this repeatedly until I was literally shooting blanks (nothing coming out). It's easiest masturbating, but can be done with penetrative sex. (With a barrier-free partner) pull out, cum on them and use it for lube.
Along my exploration journey, I've found I can use the same technique to drag orgasm out for a really long time
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I've had experience with the opposite. "Ruining" the orgasm, allows me to go at it again very swiftly. It starts just as you describe: you get up to or past the point of no return, then simply stop stimulating. Ejaculate happens, and some sensation, and lots of happy brain chemicals, but none of the oversensitive feel of post orgasm. I've done this repeatedly until I was literally shooting blanks (nothing coming out). It's easiest masturbating, but can be done with penetrative sex. (With a barrier-free partner) pull out, cum on them and use it for lube.
Along my exploration journey, I've found I can use the same technique to drag orgasm out for a really long time
Men can have multiple orgasms. I know, I do. In one session.