I Shared a Simultaneous Orgasm With My Partner for the Very First Time

A personal study on how to “come” together

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Lately, I’ve been having sex more often and experiencing more physical and emotional fulfillment than I ever have with previous partners.

I have to give credit where credit is due. I’m having amazing, world-shifting sex because I now have a partner who is comfortable with communicating all about sex. He loves to talk about my pleasure and his before, during, and after sex. All three times are opportunities for discussion and feedback — and he always asks for my input.

Sharing intimate, detailed, two-way communication about how we’re feeling about our foreplay and intercourse — in real-time — is the key to this recent phenomenal boost in my sex life.

My partner and I both love having sex with each other, and we’re both discovering that the more we explore our minds on the topic, the more we’re able to give our bodies the best possible pleasure.

Take the other morning, for example. We were in the middle of sex, and for the first time ever, we experienced a simultaneous orgasm.

We came together, at the very same time, loudly and unapologetically in each other’s arms.

It was one of the most intimate, bonding, and highly pleasurable moments we’ve shared as a couple thus far.

In a word, it was pure ecstasy in all the ways you can experience ecstasy. It wasn’t just physical, but emotional and intellectual as well.

There were a few key elements that allowed us to share a simultaneous orgasm and climax at the very same moment. He did some things, and I did some things. And — it was all incredibly hot.

Here’s how we — and other couples — can make simultaneous orgasms happen.

Have all the proper equipment at the ready

Lube, vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, prostate massagers, restraints, nipple clamps — anything that makes you feel good and helps you get there, don’t be afraid to use it with your partner. And use it without guilt or shame for wanting some assistance.

Also, don’t feel intimidated if you have a partner who wants to use a toy with you. Just enjoy the fact that you’re enhancing their pleasure to the point of an intense, mind-shattering orgasm, and be grateful that they want to share in that sort of glorious intimacy with you.

You can start things off with a toy or lube, or, you can have them at the ready on the nightstand or somewhere within reach to incorporate later. Nothing is hotter for me than starting out with just my partner, our minds and bodies connecting without any devices, and then adding a toy when I begin to feel way more aroused.

This is how I was able to orgasm at the same time as my partner.

We were getting amorous one morning, after the kids had gone to school, and I was feeling particularly aroused from the things he’d been doing during foreplay. We started with lots of kissing and touching. Then, he went down on me while he played with my nipples and I tugged at his hair.

After a bit of that, I wanted him to penetrate me even before the oral sex made me climax. This happens pretty often with me — I get so turned on by what he’s doing orally or with his hands that I beg him to enter me.